It is just natural for a man and a woman to fall in love especially if they constantly spend time with each other. Both see the best and worst in each other and if despite knowing each other’s idiosyncrasies they still fall in love, then, maybe it is worth trying.
Now put yourself in that situation. You are constantly spending time with your best friend, you know all his secrets, all his bad traits, all the girls he has had a crush on, all his heartaches, all his aspirations – and yet, you still find yourself falling for him. What do you do now? Do you remain the ever-faithful friend who is always there for him? Or, do you risk telling him about your feelings? Remember that whatever you do, there are consequences tied up on both options.
Stay Friends with Him
Pros: If you opt to keep silent about your feelings, the good thing about this is you still get the chance to hang out with him and be his best friend. You can support him in all his endeavors whether they be related to his studies, work, or girl-chasing. If he has problems, then most likely, you will still be the very first person he’d want to talk to. You can get free hugs from him since he sees you as his bestie, then he won’t think much about the hug (although, you might!). In cases when he has date problems, he will probably think of you to go out with him so he can attend parties. But…
Cons: With you knowing that as each day passes by your attraction to him is growing as well, how long can you keep your feelings hidden? Can you be objective when giving him advices particularly about his girl-problems?
Tell Him About Your Feelings
Pros: Nothing is as liberating as telling him you have been crushing over him for months now. When you tell him how you feel, you free yourself of the “what ifs” that have formed in your mind all those time you have been keeping everything to yourself. What’s more, you’ll know exactly how he feels about you: are you someone he sees as “just friends” or someone who can be “more than friends” with him? Aside from that, being friends with him for so long is already an advantage for you since you already know the way he thinks, what his likes are, and others. But…
Cons: Are you ready with whatever his response may be? If he says he just sees you as a friend, can you take it? Remember that by telling him how you feel, you also risk losing the friendship in case he doesn’t return the feelings you have for him.
Thus, the best relationship advice for this is to give you time to think it over – if you are really in love with your best friend, or just wanting to be in a relationship – and he seems to be the guy who is the answer to your prayers. Then, decide if you want to tell him about it.
