Imagine this happening to you. You know of someone fairly close to you – a friend, a relative or a colleague – and he is dying of stage-4 cancer. What do you say? What do you do? How do you react to him or her when you meet up? These are very awkward situations, and can be very distressful for both people.
I highlighted this situation because I was recently confronted with such a situation. It was a close friend. I had known her for over 20 years. I had been postponing my visit because I felt I was not ready to face up to the fact that this would probably be the last few times I would see my friend.
I talked to my husband about my feelings and he said why not think about the good times I had had with my friend instead? Even for someone like me who has vast experience in writing about relationships, my mind in this case had just goes blank, and I needed someone else to help me deal with the situation, which my husband did. Read the rest of this entry »
